Thursday, 16 December 2010

Moving on

Margot died this evening. I spent the afternoon with her reading the latest cards from the family and listing the people who were thinking of her. I told her not to worry. When I arrived home the hospital called with the news. She wanted to be buried here in our village so tomorrow I will be arranging that.

Love to all our friends,   Nick


  1. God Speed my dear Friend!
    Joleen and the pei

  2. Almighty Father, eternal God, hear our prayers for Your daughter Margot whom You have called from this life to Yourself. Grant her light, happiness, and peace. Let her pass in safety through the gates of death, and live forever with all Your saints in the light You promised to Abraham and to all his descendants in faith. Guard her from all harm and on that great day of resurrection and reward raise her up with all Your saints. Pardon her sins and give her eternal life in Your kingdom. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

  3. Cheryl (who usually posts as valrico canine)17 December 2010 at 00:02:00 CET

    Peace, Margot. You will be sorely missed.

    Nick - I don't know that we can do much from a far, but we are here if you need us and we can help.

  4. I have tears in my eyes as I type this, for a woman on the other side of the world who gave so much, and had to leave us so soon. My sympathy to Nick, family and friends. Remember the good times.

  5. Nick, there just aren't enough words to express my sympathy and sorrow. I know Margot will be sorely missed by you and all her friends, cyber or otherwise. Godspeed, Margot.....

  6. Nick, I'm sorry... and sad and angry. I know it is very hard. Please keep us in mind if you feel the need to share the tough days ahead. I found this for another loved one long ago... it is my strength when I'm at my lowest thinking about them. Stephanie (Doobie) and Caitlin xoxo

    Gone From My Sight

    I am standing upon the seashore.
    A ship at my side spreads her white
    sails to the morning breeze and starts
    for the blue ocean.

    She is an object of beauty and strength.
    I stand and watch her until at length
    she hangs like a speck of white cloud
    just where the sea and sky come
    to mingle with each other.

    Then, someone at my side says;
    "There, she is gone!"

    "Gone where?"
    Gone from my sight. That is all.
    She is just as large in mast and hull
    and spar as she was when she left my side
    and she is just as able to bear her
    load of living freight to her destined port.
    Her diminished size is in me, not in her.

    And just at the moment when someone
    at my side says, "There, she is gone!"
    There are other eyes watching her coming,
    and other voices ready to take up the glad
    shout; "Here she comes!"

    by Henry Van Dyke, a 19th Century clergyman, educator, poet, and religious writer

  7. I am so sorry Nick! My heart aches for you. You will continue to be in my prayers.

  8. I've taken care of too many cancer patients to say I didn't expect this post soon, but I guess I was hoping it wouldn't come for a long time. I will miss Margot, and her strength, support, and sense of humor that came through in her emails. Nick, I can't imagine how you feel right now, can't even begin to guess. You are in my thoughts, and I hope you feel the support of all of us whose lives Margot has touched over the years.

  9. I'm so sorry Nick. Margot is wonderful woman. My prayers
    And good thoughts for strength for you and your family.


  10. I had this feeling today. That this would happen. It's no comfort to you, Nick, I'm sure. But I felt that with everyone (and not just us from the list) expressing how they felt wishing you strength and wishing her peace - everyone expressing our love and support, and (somewhat) acceptance. The collective thoughts of love touched her and she felt it was ok to go. You were close, that matters most. I want to echo what Cheryl and Stephanie have said... If there is anything we can do please let us know. You're in my prayers. Margot is deeply missed.

  11. Godspeed dear Margot. You've touched so many lives, for certain you changed mine. You will be missed. Nick, I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling, words can not describe how sorry I am. Margot was truly a remarkable woman. She fought a courageous battle for a very long time. At least now she suffers no more. She is now able to once again see family and pets that have left her in past.

    Thinking of you in this difficult time,

    Kim Peters, Scott, Kyle, Duncan, Kacey, Skye and Joey.

  12. Nick -- I have been dreading this moment for, I guess months. When Margot kept having trouble after trouble following the last surgery, dread rose in my heart. We on the other side of the ocean can't do much except tell you how much we loved Margot and our deep respect for you, her husband. When you have thought about it, if there is anything close to Margot's heart we could send memorials to, please let us know.

  13. Nick,
    I am so sorry, you have our deepest sympathy. Margaret said it perfectly, so I'll just echo her comments.
    Margot was an inspiration, and she'll be sorely missed.

    Olga & co.

  14. I am so very sorry... So very... very... sorry. You have and will continue to be in my thoughts.


  15. Nick,
    I am so sorry to hear of Margot's passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers. We have lost a bright light in a darkening world. I do hope you will keep in touch with us as you are able. You will be in my prayers. Starr

    Perfection Wasted

    And another regrettable thing about death
    is the ceasing of your own brand of magic,
    which took a whole life to develop and market --
    the quips, the witticisms, the slant
    adjusted to a few, those loved ones nearest
    the lip of the stage, their soft faces blanched
    in the footlight glow, their laughter close to tears,
    their tears confused with their diamond earrings,
    their warm pooled breath in and out with your heartbeat,
    their response and your performance twinned.
    The jokes over the phone. The memories
    packed in the rapid-access file. The whole act.
    Who will do it again? That's it: no one;
    imitators and descendants aren't the same.
    John Updike

  16. Dear Nick,

    No words are adequate. Tears are being shed for you and Margot here in Lake Tahoe, CA. I'm so very sorry. With Love, Tracy S.

  17. Dear Nick,
    I'm so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Godspeed Margot, you will be missed.

  18. Nick, I am so sorry for your loss. Margot was an exceptional, wonderful person who was loved, will be missed and remembered fondly by people all over the world, but most importantly, by you. If there's anything we can do for you or anything that you would like done in Margot's memory, please don't hesitate to ask.

  19. Dear Nick, Frank and I were so sorry to hear this saddest of news. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and we will be in touch in the New Year. Lots of love Michele and Frank xx

  20. Dear Nick, I am so sorry for your loss, I had never met Margot but have shed many tears as I am now. I have been watching the list closely for news, she was an amazing woman to have touched so many that she never met. Chris from Indiana, Raw-lite list.

  21. Nick....I am so sorry for your loss. I joined the Raw-Lite list 5 years ago and Margot was always so very helpful whenever I had a question. Margot helped so many people and animals, and was such a wonderful caring person. Heaven has a new angel. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Kim from Maryland, Raw-lite list

  22. Nick,
    Our deepest symapthies. Fly free Margot! You will be missed.
    Kathy and Courtney Hays and the 3 Cardigans

  23. Nick, nous t'adressons nos plus sincères condoléances. ton précédent message n'annonçait pas de bonnes nouvelles. Nous sommes de tout coeur avec toi. Nous garderons de Margot le souvenir d'une femme intelligente, riante, communicative. Elle nous manquera sur le marché du aux repas de la Combe. Nous t'embrassons Agnès et Max

  24. Margot, you touched more lives than you can imagine. Nick, you are also amazing and I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words, really.


  25. Nick,
    You have my deepest sympathy. I have nothing but fondest memories of first Margot and then you and Margot, here in the US, in London and finally in the Drome.

  26. Words are never enough to describe someone's passing, especially when Cancer is the disease that takes them away.

    I am so sorry for your loss Nick, considering it came so close to the Holiday season.

    I did not know Margot very well, except through BookMooch, and we had exchanged a number of books. I will always remember her for her spirit, for her love of books, her love of cats, her love of her Chows and for the way you took care of her. It certainly reminded me a lot of the way my dad fought the disease that took away my mom.

    She will be missed, BUT her memory will be eternal. And that is what is so beautiful about those who pass-on. They don't disappear, they become immortal, because we remember them, always.

  27. Dear Margot.... I sure enjoyed our bookmooch back and forths. So sorry to hear of this news.
    Support to all her family and friends.

  28. Eternal peace to you my bookmooch friend!

    To Margot's family and friends, know that her pain is over and that she is in a better place. She will be greatly missed by those of us in the bookmooch community. My thoughts, prayers, and blessings are with you all in this trying time!